My mom passed away 7 months ago. Her and I were really close and she was the only person that I would ever go to and talk about things with. Well now shes gone and so is that. I took it very hard when she died, I ended up being heavily sedated and didn’t get out of bed for the following 2 weeks except for her memorial which between that and the two weeks following, I remember very very little. After two weeks, and being the mother of 2 kids who needed me, I drug myself out of bed, stopped all sedatives and began life again with out my mother. And OMG it has been so hard. People ALWAYS say it gets easier with time. I am finding it getting harder lately. I still cant eve look at a picture of her. SOO, being there’s no grief support groups in my area and it’s becoming clear to me that I need some thing. So, my question is does anyone know of or a member of an online grief support group that discusses this issue and not every thing but? Thank you
I’m sorry for your loss. The death of my mother was the hardest thing in the world for me and my sisters. I hope this will help: http://www.growthhouse.org/death.html The suggestion of calling a suicide hotline to ask for advice is a good one.
My mother died of cancer, and the support group run by the American Cancer Society is an excellent one. I also saw a therapist for a while and spent a couple years on antidepressants, which helped me greatly although I know it’s not for everyone. Things get better, and there will be a day when you can remember your mom with love and joy and gratitude and without tears. Good luck.
(Grief Support) (Forgiveness) (Healing) – Mary’s Story
Is there life after divorce? Is it possible to find a love again? The answers to both questions are yes. Every relationship is different and each person’s threshold of emotional pain and grief varies so there is no set timelines on how long it will take to move on with your life. The most important thing is to not rush into a new relationship while you still have old baggage latched onto you.
Of course, you will always have baggage from your failed marriage, but in time the load will lessen and you will be able to move more lightly towards a new beginning. In the early stages following your divorce, what should you do? There are many variables here as well, but it all begins with reflection and personal responsibility.
You are now a mature single with a good deal of life experience and you need to begin to sift through the good, the bad and the ugly. You need to spend some time alone with yourself, evaluating how the situation in your marriage fell apart. A relationship does not break over time, but rather slowly crumbles. So, you need to try to look at the situation with fresh eyes. Take responsibility for your own actions and analyze what your part was in the demise of the marriage. You should then take stock of how your partner fared in this situation, but always remember that this is for learning purposes only and not for a blame game. It takes two to tango and you both said “I do,” and you both did do the damage.
Once you have had a chance to take stock of the fallen pieces of your life, you can decide if you need to speak to a counselor or begin attending a divorce recovery support group. All of this damage control must be completed before you start the dating seeking process to find a new love. If you just patch up the leaks, when the torrential rains come again, and they will in every new relationship, the patches won’t hold and you’ll be back in the same situation. You need to say goodbye to patching up the holes and get a new and improved you.
It’s not going to be easy to work through the emotional aches of a divorce, so give in to the progression and accept the current place you are in. Go with the flow of the healing process and let it fully play out so that you can be free of that baggage and ready to move on to a new day. This will be a long process, so set immediate, short-term and long-term goals that you want to begin to accomplish. These goals should always have the purpose of positively influencing your emotional, physical and spiritual health. You need to take care of all of you before you can even think of learning to love another person, the right way, again.
When you have succeeded in overcoming the uphill battle of dealing with the grief of a broken marriage, you can start to think about dating again. Don’t dive in headfirst. Take a breath. You may be interested in checking out the sites www.seekingmarriage.com and www.maturesinglesonly.com when you’re ready to get back into the dating seeking world. Both online companies are safe and run thorough background checks on their members. However, learn from your past mistakes. No one is perfect in this world, but we can try to make a difference by being the best individual that we can be.
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I have a friend who lost a member of their family … how do I offer my support?
This is a platonic male friend (online friend only) whom I used to work with in person some 10 years ago. We talk daily via IM. He had sent me a MySpace message that he lost a family member last night and I basically responded that I was sorry to hear about his loss and that if he needed to talk, he knew where I was (referring to Yahoo Messenger and e-mail), and signed off as, “Hugs, (my name).” I want to be a friend, but at the same time I want to give him space while he’s dealing with his grief. Should I just sit back and let him talk when and if he needs to? Is this the proper thing to do? (I remember when I lost my mother, I didn’t want people to come to me with their condolences; I came to people to talk when I was ready.)
I’m also hoping that he does not read the “Hugs, (my name)” sign-off as a more-than-a-friend gesture, because that is not how I intended it … but because we talk like two female friends, sometimes I forget he’s a male.
i think you have the right frame of mind. offer your shoulder, but let him go to you. just let him know that you are there whenever he needs you. the “hugs” i dont think will be taken as a more than friend thing. hugging is a friendly gesture and “handshake (your name)” would be a very akward one.
